I had occasion to sing a little song at a party recently, whereupon a trans woman who was present—let's call her "Karen"—immediately asked if I was gay. (I'm not.) When talking with her later, mentioning that our mutual friend had been trying to convince me that I was trans (which kind of backfired, incidentally, but that's another story), she stressed that anyone who sung like me had to be either gay or a trans woman.
-Later, another friend who had been present for the latter exchange and I agreed that this was bizarre—like, that's not what those words mean! Gay men are men who are attracted to men; trans women were males who decided to transition.
+Later, another friend who had been present for the latter exchange and I agreed that this was bizarre—like, that's not what those words mean! Gay men are men who are attracted to men; trans women were males who decided to transition. I'm a man who's attracted to women
But _we were wrong_ and _Karen was right_. People on the androphilic MtF spectrum tend to have naturally feminine vocal mannerisms; people on the autogynephilic spectrum have a natrual incentive to fake it. (And I _do_ fake it.) With neither the inclination nor the incentive, normal straight men _don't sing like me_, and Karen was _exactly right_ to pick up on this, even
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+Title: Cousins Disowned
+Date: 2020-01-01
+Category: fiction
+Tags: cathartic, autogynephilia
+Status: draft
+
+"How was your trip?"
+
+"_Ugh._ The hotel I was in was hosting a _furry_ convention. Who do those perverts think they are, parading around their fetish in public?"
+
+"Um."
+
+"What?"
+
+"You're a _lesbian trans woman_."
+
+"So?"
+
+"So, [shouldn't you](https://www.researchgate.net/publication/24222046_Erotic_Target_Location_Errors_An_Underappreciated_Paraphilic_Dimension) ..."
+
+"Shouldn't I what?"
+
+"... nothing."
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+Title: Falsifiability and What We Expect Not to See
+Date: 2017-01-01 5:00
+Category: commentary
+Status: draft
+
+(quote Julia Serano on falsifiability)
+
+the two-type taxonomy predicts that we see two clusters, along these dimensions—
+
+age of transition: young vs. all over the map
+sexual orientation: androphilic vs. gynephilic/psuedoandrophilic
+childhood femininity: very vs. not so much
+AGP: not really vs. very
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Date: 2020-01-01
Status: draft
+> This is the one that I had to write
+> It's like a letter of love with no love left out
+>
+> —Stretch Princess, "Dying to Begin"
+
I remember having animal-transformation fantasies as a teen, and then losing interest; was I close to being on track to being a furry?