"Sexual Dimorphism": drop in "Should Bad Boys Win?" tussle anecdote

diff --git a/content/drafts/sexual-dimorphism-in-the-sequences-in-relation-to-my-gender-problems.md b/content/drafts/sexual-dimorphism-in-the-sequences-in-relation-to-my-gender-problems.md
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@@ -142,7 +142,7 @@ Another one of the little song-fragments I wrote in my head a few years earlier
 
 Looking back with the outlook later acquired from my robot cult, this is _abhorrent_. You don't _casually wish death_ on someone just because you disagree with their views on psychology! (Also, casually wishing death on a woman for her views does not seem particularly pro-feminist?!) Even if it wasn't in a spirit of personal malice (this was a song I sung to myself, not an actual threat directed to Amy Alkon's inbox), the sentiment just _isn't done_. But at the time, I _didn't notice there was anything wrong with my song_. I hadn't yet been socialized into the refined ethos of "False ideas should be argued with, but heed that we too may have ideas that are false".
 
-[TODO Vassar anecdote]
+In the same vein of my not then understanding the difference between argument and demonizing the outgroup, there was one especially memorable occasion in the _Overcoming Bias_ comment section when [the soon-to-be-President of Yudkowsky's research nonprofit brought up the idea of banning me](https://www.overcomingbias.com/2008/06/why-do-psychopa.html#comment-518267438) after [I said](https://www.overcomingbias.com/2008/06/why-do-psychopa.html#comment-518267387), "are you aware that this is exactly the sort of psychology that leads to rape?" in response to [another commenter's anecdote](https://www.overcomingbias.com/2008/06/why-do-psychopa.html#comment-518267368) that I construed as misogynistic. Coincidentally, this was actually the _same_ day as my first time ever crossdressing in front of other people (I having purchased a purple dress on Amazon and invited two friends over while my parents were away), only I couldn't enjoy it at all because I was so emotionally trashed from the ban threat.
 
 Sex differences would come up a couple more times in one of the last Sequences, on ["Fun Theory"](https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/K4aGvLnHvYgX9pZHS/the-fun-theory-sequence)—speculations on how life could be truly _good_ if the world were superintelligently optimized for human values, in contrast to the cruelty and tragedy of our precarious existence [in a world shaped only by blind evolutionary forces](https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/sYgv4eYH82JEsTD34/beyond-the-reach-of-god).
 

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@@ -10,6 +10,13 @@ Or there was the time I responded to [paraphrase P.G.'s comment] with [my commen
 _ Vassar clapback anecdote
 https://www.overcomingbias.com/2008/06/why-do-psychopa.html#comment-518267438
 
+I need a single paragraph that quickly hits these points:
+* not understanding the difference between reasoned argument and demonizing the outgroup
+* what G. said
+* what I said
+* Michael Vassar threatened to ban me: https://www.overcomingbias.com/2008/06/why-do-psychopa.html#comment-518267438
+* this ruined my day crossdressing in front of Seanan and Katie
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