From: M. Taylor Saotome-Westlake Date: Thu, 29 Dec 2016 02:42:47 +0000 (-0800) Subject: said friend remembers this differently; leave her or him out of it X-Git-Url: http://534655.efjtl6rk.asia/source?a=commitdiff_plain;h=adb7c05edece050304b8b71650de57f819a1feaf;p=Ultimately_Untrue_Thought.git said friend remembers this differently; leave her or him out of it They also point out that the simple past of _to sing_ is _sang_; it turns out that _sung_ is the past participle. --- diff --git a/content/2016/chromatic-key.md b/content/2016/chromatic-key.md index b8217dc..e0c9474 100644 --- a/content/2016/chromatic-key.md +++ b/content/2016/chromatic-key.md @@ -3,8 +3,8 @@ Date: 2016-11-22 07:33 Category: commentary Tags: two-type taxonomy, anecdotal -I had occasion to sing a little song at a party recently, whereupon a trans woman who was present—let's call her "Deborah"—immediately asked if I was gay. (I'm not.) When talking with her later, mentioning that our mutual friend had been trying to convince me that I was trans (which kind of backfired, incidentally, but that's another story), she stressed that anyone who sung like me had to be either gay or a trans woman. +I had occasion to sing a little song at a party recently, whereupon a trans woman who was present—let's call her "Deborah"—immediately asked if I was gay. (I'm not.) When talking with her later, mentioning that our mutual friend had been trying to convince me that I was trans (which kind of backfired, incidentally, but that's another story), she stressed that anyone who sang like me had to be either gay or a trans woman. -Later, another friend who had been present for the latter exchange and I agreed that this was bizarre—like, that's not what those words mean! Gay men are men who are attracted to men; trans women were males who decided to transition. I'm a man who's attracted to women, which is not either of those things! Deciding that I must be one of those things based on how I sing is wholly unwarranted! +At the time, I thought that this was bizarre—like, that's not what those words mean! Gay men are men who are attracted to men; trans women were males who decided to transition. I'm a man who's attracted to women, which is not either of those things! Deciding that I must be one of those things based on how I sing is wholly unwarranted! -But _we were wrong_ and _Deborah was right_. People on the androphilic MtF spectrum tend to have naturally feminine vocal mannerisms; people on the autogynephilic spectrum have a natural incentive to fake it. (And I _do_ fake it.) With neither the inclination nor the incentive, normal straight men _don't sing like me_, and Deborah was _exactly right_ to pick up on this, even if I think her ontology is ultimately flawed. +But _I was wrong_ and _Deborah was right_. People on the androphilic MtF spectrum tend to have naturally feminine vocal mannerisms; people on the autogynephilic spectrum have a natural incentive to fake it. (And I _do_ fake it.) With neither the inclination nor the incentive, normal straight men _don't sing like me_, and Deborah was _exactly right_ to pick up on this, even if I think her ontology is ultimately flawed.